Happy New Year! It is hard to believe that it is now 2017 – remember when we celebrated the millennium? That was 17 years ago. Crazy, right? When I look at it from that perspective I can only think, “holy shit, life goes by fast.”
Many of you know that my husband and I welcomed our first baby, Aria, in September. 2016 was an incredible year for me as many of my dreams came true. However, I also faced many challenges, fears and tears in this major year of transition. I am guessing you did too?
I believe there will always be highs and lows in our lives. Experiences that we love and want to remember + ones we hate and try to forget. Though it hurts to admit it, “highs don’t exist without some lows.”
For the first time in my life (this is vulnerable for me) I am open to the ups + downs that come along with life. That may sound odd – but I realized in my first few months of motherhood how attached I am to labels such a good + bad, right + wrong, happy + sad.
I have spent many years deep in self-inquiry around discovering peace + purpose because I want to make this life my best life and I am willing to dig deep, learn and make changes to support the type of experience I want.
At the same time, I have been holding on and labeling many of the not so nice happenings and trying to avoid them at all costs. Why? Because I don’t like pain – I don’t like it for me or for anyone. I want to wipe it away so that we all feel good.
I know this about myself and I also know that’s not REAL freedom, peace or pleasure. The freedom I desire isn’t conditional. It’s not, “only if things go my way than I’ll be happy.”
This year I want to embrace LIFE EXPERIENCES – that includes all of them which means I choose to release my ATTACHMENTS + LABELING. Let’s stop putting everything in a box. None of us are getting out of here alive anyway and we cannot always control it all.
Before you jump on your New Year’s Resolutions, goals and to do’s for the year,
I’d love for you to consider this for yourself:
- How do you label your life experiences? Is there a way to accept the good with the so called bad as a TEAM rather than a RIVALRY?
- Consider one of my favorite quotes by Dr. Dyer, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
- This year can you choose LIFE and EXPERIENCE over perfection, good and easy? (The difference is leading with your soul rather than with your ego.)
My truth is that, it’s never all good or all bad. It’s a bit of both! In fact, good + bad depend on me. My mood usually dictates and identifies with one or the other. I am not discounting the immense range of emotion and difficult circumstances you have experienced – though, I want you to consider that perhaps your perspectives on right/wrong + your labels keep you stuck.
For me, I am curious to see how embracing EXPERIENCE rather than categorizing my experiences will impact my life. How about you?
Wishing you all the best for a year of peace, pleasure + purpose! Know you are loved and enough just as you are <3
Love + Light,