I recently read a quote by Venus Williams, she said “You have to believe in yourself when no one else does. That’s what makes you a winner.”
I love this quote and I believe that it is true. If you don’t believe in yourself it’s going to be hard to make positive changes, start your own business or uplevel your life. That being said, most people struggle with this. They have big dreams, high expectations and even higher potential yet they remain stuck.
My clients often tell me that they know that things are possible for them but their low level of confidence hinders their dreams and stops them from taking action. In other words, they see the big picture and still don’t believe in themselves. They are not aware of their own power.
I too, have struggled with feeling confidence and here’s what I learned. You don’t have to be born confident to become confident. Of course, we all have those friends and family members that seem to naturally exude confidence. That doesn’t mean you can’t find your own confidence and self-worth by working on yourself.
YES, YOU CAN LEARN CONFIDENCE!
Like many talents, people often assume that you are either born with it or destined to fail. The truth is every successful or confident person you know took steps to work on themselves or their craft. Even someone as talented as Michael Jackson studied dance, practiced singing techniques and worked on his craft daily from a very young age.
Was he born with exceptional talent – yes AND did he have to work towards and learn new things to get better-yes!
My point is if you feel insecure or struggle with believing in yourself and desperately want more in your life you can take steps to feeling better about yourself and realizing your power.
Here are 8 steps you can take to start believing in yourself:
- Know Your Strengths
We are all good at something. What are you good at? Nothing is too small or insignificant.
For instance, I always knew I was a good listener but that never seemed like something that big when I was younger. I noticed others excelled at sports and science and allowed myself to feel small for “just being a good listener.” Today as a life coach, this is my greatest skill and most important asset.
- Take Action
Confidence comes from taking action and seeing results.
In an ideal world we would feel confident and then take action, well it’s actually the other way around. You need to do it in order to reap the benefits. Once you experience a challenge or face a fear you realize how powerful you are. This is key – take action!
- Face Fear
We all feel fear – it’s a natural human emotion.
This goes along with number 2. Taking action can be really scary and that doesn’t have to stop you. You can work with your fear and get through it. Begin to see fear as an old friend challenging you to get better rather than an enemy defeating you.
- Be Loving Towards Yourself
Treat yourself the way you treat your friends.
If your friend wanted to try something new and scary how would you support them? What would your advice be?
- Give Yourself Credit
It is so easy to overlook and minimize our success.
We’ll say things like “oh but it was no big deal” or “I do it every day.” I am here to remind you, you are big deal and you do a lot. Start noticing what you are let go of what you think you are not.
- Celebrate Yourself
Do something nice for yourself and acknowledge that you deserve it.
Celebrate the little things in life that you do and before you know it you’ll be celebrating the big things too.
Are you willing to work towards your dreams and take steps to build your self-confidence? In the comments below share which step you will try today!
With love and light,